It’s been five months since cancer took my mom. Not a day goes by that I don’t think of her and thank her for the opportunity I had to be her daughter. My mom could be. . . how do I put it. . .stubborn. But she taught me how to love being a mom, and how to enjoy being alive.
Some of the best lessons my mom taught me (or tried to teach me that didn’t necessarily stick) include:
- Never, never, never stop learning.
- Keep track of your vacation money by using cash-filled envelopes for food, gas, souvenirs, etc. (Disclaimer: I don’t do this–We teased her mercilessly about it.)
- Cook desserts from scratch using real butter and cream whenever possible. And it’s always possible.
- Flip off slow drivers. (Not something I do, but my daughters have certainly picked it up.)
- Friends come and go but family is there FOREVER. I don’t think she meant it as a threat. I could be wrong.
- Laugh as often as possible and never take yourself too seriously.
- Read something every day.
- Christianity isn’t something you learn from a book. It’s something developed in the heart.
- Plant flowers. (I did not inherit my mom’s green thumb. I plant flowers and they wither abruptly. However, my mom could make plastic plants blossom.)
- Have good friends.
- Live with joy until the very end.
This Mother’s Day is the first time in my life that I won’t be able to talk to mom and tell her I love and appreciate her. I hope wherever she is, she’s planting a garden, eating chocolate cake and reading a really good book. I love you and miss you, Mom.
Make sure to send love to your mom today.
What a happy surprise to find this wonderful memory of Janet waiting in my inbox. I miss her everyday and feel so blessed that she was my sister. She taught me so many great things over the years. I hope she is happy and with all the people she was looking forward to being with on the other side of the veil. Jeanene
Mom loved you so much and talked about you all the time. She was so lucky to have such fantastic sisters. It was so good to see you at her funeral. Love you.
Your daughters are so lucky they had Mom as a grandma…even if she taught them to flip people off! They are also lucky to have you as a Mom. I could write a list of the things you taught them, starting with approaching life with a sense of humor and willingness to poke fun at EVERYTHING. I love you and I love (and envy) your wit.